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Catching up with Naijamum

I won’t be talking about parenting in this post, I will be talking about myself, I asked my children what ‘BAE’ means and they said it’s  ‘Before anyone else’ so I told them that I am myself’s bae, that is myself’s me before anyone else. Come and see reaction, surprise was an understatement, they just could not understand how it would be possible that they were not the center of my universe so I had to give it a second thought and realized they were indeed right, they are my ‘bae’ and I come a second after them.

Anyway, I have been hitting the gym latelygym and the way I binge on food is the way I binge on working out and exercise, when I want to exercise so I find out that I spend two hours nonstop on the treadmill and the secret is very easy, I will show you in a bit. Meanwhile, I usually don’t check my weight before I start working out because I always want to be pleasantly surprised after a month or so.And though I did not check my weight in the beginning, I am already noticing some changes. The main thing anyway is that I have a lot of fun in the gym, I make the most of it like I try to make the most of every situation I find myself after all, I doubt if anybody really likes exercising if they can help it, no?

Soooo, the secret? I dance to Fela’s music on the treadmill from Zombie to Teacher don’t teach me nonsense and all the other tracks back to back. You give it a try, I am sure you will be thanking me in your spirit, oya let’s go…. Zombie.……

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Mothers, chop knuckle, Happy Mother’s Day. God Himself is a mother.

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Chop knuckle!

To all those beautiful mothers, chop knuckle jare, its another Mother’s Day, it’s your day, it’s one of the days every hardworking and competent mother should be basking in joy and grinning from ear to ear. Do you know that God Himself is a mother? Yes, that’s how important the role is. So if you are at that stage of your life when you feel you have not been able to put things together or you don’t seem to have a clue about what parenting is, that’s okay,it happens to the best of us, so relax, it’s not the end of the world, trust me, everything is going to be alright.

God appreciates us and tells us in Isa 66:13 that “As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you. He knows that ‘Comfort’ is our middle name, we are all naturally wired to comfort our child. He also wants to know in 49:15  “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I [God] will not forget you.” So from these verses, God that put you in that position knows what you are going through. He knows the many roles and duties you perform. He knows you will deprive yourself so as to give your child the best, in Matthew 7: 9-10, He asks, “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? So He will provide for you to be able to fulfil your role.

He knows you protect your child and that you would dare anything or anybody that wants to harm or even disturb the peace, security and progress of your child especially after your patience has been tried so much, He says in Isaiah 42:14, “For a very long time, I have kept silent, I have been quiet and held myself back. But now, like a woman in child birth, I cry out, I gasp, I pant. But please proceed with caution biko, on your way to waging a war against that your child’s enemy, note enemy here could even be self inflicted like procrastination, laziness etc.

Trust me, He kuku knows that you put your child  first before anything and anybody, in Luke 11:5-9 a friend wanted to borrow some food items at the dead of the night,  “….. the mother asnswers, don’t bother me. The door is locked for the night and my family and I are all in bed. I can’t help you. He knows about discipline, He disciplines us afterall and so encourages you to discipline your child too. So in Hebrews 12:6 we learn that “The Lord disciplines the one He loves and chastises every son whom he receives.

God being a mother Himself has commanded your child to honour you in Ephesians 6:2 He says ” Honour your father and your mother (this is the first commandment with a promise). He also tells your child in Proverbs 6:20 not to forsake your teaching because He knows you can deliver, He trusts you with His creation and believes in ‘your teaching’. Listen, He gives you greater responsibility than He gives the father in the upbrining of your child because He knows your capacity so in Proverbs 10:1 He says ” A wise son makes a glad father , but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother” Note that God did not say sorrow to his father.

And finally if you are still in doubt, He assures you in Joshua 1:9 and commands you to”Be strong and be of good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed; for I the Lord your God am with you wherever you go”. And remember no matter how long it will take there will be reversal of role, so may you reap all the fruits of your parenting labour , Amen.

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Role reversal, Naiajamum and her mum, can you guess the conversation?

So what plans have you got today? No plans yet? No problem, chop knuckle, its your day, have it your way, you are allowed to go off duty for today (partially o, not fully) only and do whatever makes you happy. Happy Mother’s Day.

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Your DIY child.

If you help your child with homework, chores,etc, chances are that they will have difficulty in being independent and since you won’t be around forever it’s not such a good idea is it? Lets hit the ground running this year, what stage are you in, right now in your household in terms of teaching your child independence? This image

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triggered off some thoughts and also some memories.

Things we are guilty of as a parent

  1. Dressing up your child, not a baby or a toddler o !
  2. Feeding your child, you know with a spoon or whatever, not a baby or toddler o ! Don’t go telling people that it’s Naijamum that said my baby should be baffing for herself o.

  3. Doing all the house chores and not assigning them any
  4. Taking over their homework personally or by proxy through the help of tutors, lesson teachers and also hiring mercenaries to write exams for them.

  5. Surrounding them with all sorts of domestic helps, that fall over themselves to do their bidding because of the fear of Oga nbo, Oga nbo.
  6. Becoming their freedom fighter, following them to school to face their teachers, their mates and even tackling your own spouse, their other parent on their behalf.
  7. Driving them in cars all over the place so that they dont have to  suffer walk, to the extent that they can’t find their way from their room to your door step.
  8. Insisting on them getting any thing they fancy whether or not they deserve /merit or even need it.
  9. Add your own, all the ones you are guilty of that are not already included on this list.

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of appropriate household chores should be illustrative enough if you are still insisting you don’t understand or don’t know how to match chores with age.

And to the rest  of us that we know already and the only thing we lack is the will power to implement, it lets us pray…..

Me: Oya say Father, the grace, the will power to turn my child into a DIY child like

Naijamum give unto  me.

You(reader of this post): Father…………

Continue in your own words, pray exactly as you want your child’s life to turn out……ask Baba God, He answers prayers backed up with action of course 😉

Wishing you happy, rewarding and fulfilling parenting.

DIY means ‘do it yourself’

Baffing means to have a bath

Mercenaries are professional exam writers hired for a fee

Oga nbo literally means ‘Master is coming’

Oya means common, or be fast.