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Son disembowels father.

Yes I know, before you point it out to me, I know I sound like a broken record but this burden I carry about parenting rightly will not let me be. Parenting, it is so easy to get it wrong, the effect of a few minutes lack of attention could be disastrous. Even to myself, I sound like a harbinger of doom, of bad news but some of us just have to be the ones to do this self-appointed job, are n’t we?

Baba Junior and Mama Junior are (or should I say were? Because the mother also is in coma in the hospital as a result of the stab injuries sustained in the hands of Junior)our family friends, we had children together, our children are growing up together, we live in the same neighbourhood. I have refrained from writing this post earlier because it’s a bit closer to home but the mother hen in me keeps nudging me to do so because who knows? it might save some other people’s lives in the future.

It is not a common occurrence for a son to disembowel the father so if such a thing happens, we should all pay attention and see if we can learn a lesson or two from the occurrence. I will not be boring you with advice, instead I will just present the facts as they are and leave you to draw your own  conclusions. And I am also going to post some images, who knows, they just may wake up some parents from their slumber.

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Our friend, may his soul find rest.

 

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The son, Junior, he is on the run.

 

This last image is not for the faint hearted but you just might realize the seriousness of the situation by viewing it.

The disembowelled body of our friend laying  in a pool of his own blood

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God forbid! It is not my portion! Holy ghost fire! Back to sender! Awusu Bilahi!

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My dear Nigerian mother, I am going to be judging you seriously in this post. Before you accuse me of lack of understanding, I reassure you that I do understand, I know what your problems are.

For example I know you are busy, most of you have to work alongside your husbands for the financial equation of the family to balance.

I know that now more than ever with the modern wave of feminism and all other similar influences via social media, you now feel that you are not solely responsible for the welfare of your child, after all you should claim your equal rights, should n’t you? Coupled with that is the fact that you are both bread winners of the family.

I know that labour is cheap in Nigeria so you can afford to delegate your primary responsibilities to nincompoop that you surround yourself with like drivers, nannies, domestic help etc.(Please pardon the strong langauge)

I know you grapple with so many other important duties like going to early morning church services minimum of three times a week, hallelujah hour, Shiloh hour, and all the other hours, time you wuld have spent on school runs,  evening services, that you ought to supervise your child’s lesson teacher,  midweek services, first Monday of the month service,  and NASFAT events,MSS etc for the Moslems among us,  so where do I expect you to find the time?

I know you have to keep close tabs  on your spouses by checking their phones regular which robs you of the time to check your child’s homework and wellbeing, and you also have to ensure you and your spouse both ride home together so as not to give him breathing space to philander.

Your weekends are also filled up with parties, functions and events due to no fault of yours, after all you were not the one that asked to be invited, you are the soul of parties, they just can’t do without your presence, and after all it is people that will come for your own event too, shebi? Apart from that, your Facebook and instagram pages must be updated with new pictures every weekend. Your fans must not be disappointed ke being a Facebook celebrity that you are.

You also have to keep up with Nollywood movies, and these Nollywood people, they know how to churn out movies, Iroko TV and  Netflix have also been added unto you to compound your problems

Finally I know you are always in denial and if a serious issue concerning your child is staring you in the face, the only action you will take is to chant ‘God forbid’ it is not my portion, I reject it in Jesus name, awusu bilahi or report to your ‘spiritual fathers and go from one night vigil to the other (this night vigil plague has also spread into Islam in case you are wondering) in search of special prayers and deliverance for the child

The image above is very clear it does not need any explanation, it’s been circulated a while ago and when I saw it for the first time, I wept. I felt like strangling those whose carelessness led to it and not the nincompoop, the perpetrator, because come to think of it, it was not really his fault. When I was going through the comments on one of my old posts, I came across a comment; ‘God forbid’ as  if when you warn somebody about an impending danger, you are wishing that such danger happens to the person.

I know what your problems are but I refuse to cut you any slack. We need a total re-orientation and complete overhauling of our upbringing skills. We have to make up our mind on whether we really want children or not and if we do, we should be able to make some sacrifices till they are old enough to protect themselves from predators and also old enough to make informed decisions.

Meanwhile we can start by taking some of the following measures.

Spend quality time with your child, befriend them, the advantages are very many

Contrary to what you may be thinking, God is not vindictive, He will not punish you for missing a few services. He is a fantastic father and the only ministry only you can do is to be a parent to your child, pastors are replaceable,mothers can neither be swapped, nor exchanged. God will understand if you prioritize your child over church activities although Pastors might not tell you this but we all have access to the Bible and each has a personal relationship with God so you can find out by yourself.

Avoid as much as you can, leaving your child in company of drivers and other domestic helps and relatives of the opposite sex and sometimes the same gender. You can consider taking shifts with other parents from your child’s school for joint school runs.

You can  consider a more family friendly occupation or business and even put your career on hold for a while for  the sake of your child.

No calamity will befall you if you miss a few parties, try it and let me know how it goes

Where your child is concerned treat everybody as guilty until proved innocent.

You can thank me for the post instead of accusing me of being unnecessarily paranoid as some other commenters on this blog have.

 

 

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Making a case for Sex Offenders List II ; Unilorin Lecturer sex scandal.

Still on this matter, Making a case for Sex Offenders List, I must admit I am A bit tired of this Sexual Offences thing but just when I want to give up, something like this happens again. I don’t know which is more shocking, the occurrence itself or Nigerians’ reaction? I have read so many comments online and this has left me in a perpetual state of pity for Nigeria. We are in the habit of always blaming the victim and pitying the perpetrator. I remember a particular event in a secondary school in Lagos, I was privileged to be among the people seated on the High table but what happened almost disrupted the event, a play was staged by the host students about sexual harassment in schools and another member of the high table, a lady (a Lecturer) started venting and said she disagreed totally with the play and that sexual harassment does not exist in her school, University of Lagos, and trust me (thinking, teacher don’t teach me nonsense ).   , I quickly took it personal and we started arguing and totally forgot we were at a public event and on the high table for that matter.The poor Reverend Father that was present was visibly discomfitured, you see it was a catholic school. According to her, as long as a  female student has a good rapport with her teachers(whatever that means) she should not have any problem with her teachers, I on the other hand, maintained that as long as a student is hardworking and diligent, she does not need any rapport, we all know what unnecessary rapport can lead to. Putting it mildly, I was amazed at the lady lecturer’s stance, I mean if our children in institutions of higher learning cannot find succour in our female lecturers, where else will they find it? Since that time, there have been at least five reported cases of sexual harassment emanating from this woman’s University of Lagos, it is as if God wants to prove me right

I taya o :/  as my people will say but is there no way out of this mess?  Thank God for social media, we will continue to name them and  shame them and continue to do our bit to make people take a second look at sexual harassment and all forms of sexual offences and accept that they indeed exist, I am of the firm believe that if an act is condemned by majority in a society, it will be reduced if not completely eradicated.

Please listen to the tape to the end and let’s have your opinion, news being circulated is that the Lecturer has since resigned.

I taya o means I am sick and tired, I am fed up.